英语翻译For many parents,raising a teenager is like fighting a l

英语翻译
For many parents,raising a teenager is like fighting a long war,but years go by without any clear winner.Like a border conflict between neighboring countries,the parent-teen war is about boundaries:Where is the line between what I control and what you do?
Both sides want peace,but neither feels it has any power to stop the conflict.In part,this is because neither is willing to admit any responsibility for starting it.From the parents’ point of view,the only cause of their fight is their adolescents’ complete unreasonableness.And of course.the teens see it in exactly the same way,except oppositely.Both feel trapped
In this article.I’ll describe three no-win situations that commonly arise between teens and parents and then suggest some ways out of the trap.The first no-win situation is quarrels over unimportant things.Examples include the color of the teen’s hair,the cleanliness of the bedroom,the preferred style of clothing,the child’s failure to eat a good breakfast before school,or his tendency to sleep until noon on the weekends.Second,blaming.The goal of a blaming battle is to make the other admit that his bad attitude is the reason why everything goes wrong.Third,needing to be right,It doesn’t matter what the topic is –politics.The taws of physics,or the proper way to break an egg –the point of these arguments is to prove that you are right and the other person is wrong.for both wish to be considered an authority—someone who actually knows something — and therefore to command respect.Unfortunately,as long as long as parents and teens continue to assume that they know more than the other,they’ll continue to fight these battles forever and never make any real progress

对于很多家长来说,抚养小孩就像进行一场无休止的战争,而且这场战争没有胜者.与邻国之间的领土争端类似,家长与孩子间的战争同样围绕着边界：我所掌控的和你的行为之间的界线究竟在哪?双方都想和平共处,但同时又都无力阻止冲突.一部分原因是,谁都不愿承认对挑起争端负有责任.在家长看来,他们冲突的唯一原因无非是孩子的无理取闹.当然孩子也是这么看的,不过在他们眼中不可理喻的是家长.双方都陷入了这个怪圈.
下面我将分别介绍三种在家长和孩子间常见的"双输"的情形并给出建议.
第一种情况是因为鸡毛蒜皮的事情争吵.比如孩子头发的颜色,卧室整不整洁,穿衣风格,上学前不吃早餐,或者是周末很晚才睡.
第二种是责备.互相指责的目的是让对方承认争吵都是因为他恶劣的态度.
第三种是关于政治,不管话题是什么.一些物理问题,亦或是怎样打鸡蛋才正确,这些争论的要点无非是证明你是对的而对方是错的,双方都想树立自己的权威,都想被看做是真正懂点东西的人,从而获得对方的尊重.不幸的是,只要家长和孩子继续认为自己比对方懂的多,他们之间的争斗就会持续而且绝不会有任何好转.